# Breaking Points

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## Metadata
- Author: [[Agnes Callard]]
- Full Title: Breaking Points
- Category: #articles
- URL: https://harpers.org/archive/2021/07/breaking-points-agnes-callard/

## Highlights
- You can’t waltz by yourself. When I lose you, I also lose the me I became for you. And vice versa. Which is why cutting you off, once we have grown together, is an act of violence. I am not cutting anything visible, like your arm or leg, but I am nonetheless cutting away something that is a part of you—me. This is an act of psychological violence.
- We don’t simply inflict our lives on others; rather, we learn, over time, to coordinate, to synchronize, to co-deliberate. We grow together, bit by bit, by way of agreement and experience: the result is something too real to be annulled by one party simply deciding to opt out.